In recent years Educational researchers have made it clear, that Educational opportunities are related to Origin or Race in which one belongs to. A typical example is Joshua Lupemba, whose mother is from Ghana and his father from Congo.
He and his sister were raised by his mother alone. He said his mother did the best she could but, she couldn´t help him concerning his education because she wasn´t that much educated herself. He said even before he was 10 his teachers have written him off, they told him he was good in sports and not in Maths.
Lupemba´s story is common among the immigrants community not only here in Germany but all over the world. The children are often not given a chance to prove their ability and this later leads to frustration. For example the kids stop attending classes or become rebellious against their teachers. This leads to kids dropping out of school for no reason.
It is also the responsibility of parents to serve as Role models for their children. A Role model is an individual who is looked up to and revered by someone else. A role model is someone who other individuals aspire to be like, either in the present or in the future.
The presence of a role model especially a father figure is very important for the upbringing of a child. A child needs someone to look up to for counseling and guidance
Parents are in constant search for a livelihood but in the search they forget the most important thing, which are their children. I know of a 6yr old girl who hardly sees her mother, because her mum has several jobs. When there is nobody to monitor them, they start moving with the wrong set of people and involve in activities such as taking drugs, spending the whole day on the internet and in the worst case end up in jail.
We can put some blame on the German educational system for not giving our children enough chances and opportunities, but if we as parents are there for our kids to comfort them in difficult times, they will surely make it. Our children are our future; we should make them our priority and every other thing will come after. Am using this opportunity to beg the dads out there: please be there for your children, they need you to guide and protect them. And last but not least they need you as a mentor and as a role model.
Compiled by Ajibola Kolawole